Sobriety

Sobriety | Journey to Happiness: Can I Be Happy Without Alcohol?

Sobriety

Journey to Happiness: Can I Be Happy Without Alcohol?

Happiness in sobriety? Could this really be possible? Yes, I know I need to quit drinking if I want to continue to live. Survival during sobriety maybe, but happiness seems almost out of the question. But there is a little glimmer of hope when I see other sober women who seem happy.

Could I get there too? I won’t think about that now. First I must somehow find a way to quit drinking. I will try to get through today without a drink. I will survive this day hour by hour. I know that I have to begin to really try.

It’s been three days without a drink! I feel proud of myself but I’m also scared to death that I won’t be able to maintain this. Maybe if I accept the fear but don’t let it take over, I can continue.

The women in my group have given me praise for what I have accomplished. That feels good. I don’t want to let them and myself down. Just one more day, I can do it! I am feeling uneasy about myself.

Thoughts have been coming to mind about what I don’t like in my life, oh, what I wouldn’t give to have a drink to numb my brain. How can I stay sober and deal with these problems in my life too? I feel angry, it’s not fair! I also feel angry at myself for letting my life get so out of control. Guilt will just get me drinking again so I don’t want to go there. I need to try to think positive and just know that not drinking is enough for now.

It’s been three weeks! I heard once that to establish a new pattern, it takes 21 days. It’s true that I feel a little more in control now. My need to drink seems to occur with mental triggers more than with a physical need.

When I feel sad or lonely or angry, it’s the worst. Staying with my real feelings and honoring them is tough. My group keeps telling me that getting to know myself will help me stay sober. Then why do I feel all this guilt about what I seem to need or desire.

Will I have to change all the relationships in my life? Will they stick with me when they get to know the real me? It’s too scary to think about if they are unwilling to grow and change with me.

It’s been three months. When I was walking on the beach today, I felt a moment of peace and acceptance with myself. Could this be happiness? I noticed that as soon as I tried to soak it in, I felt a desire to drink again.

Why do I want to sabotage myself? Is it because I don’t think I deserve to be happy? It’s been over a year. My life used to be filled with busy activities, always finding a way to distract from what I really felt—drugs and alcohol also served this purpose.

Now my work is to accept my feelings, sit with them daily during meditation, and try to live in the moment as much as possible. I used to think happiness was something big, like exhilaration or joy, when I felt ecstatic! Yes, that is happiness, but those moments come rarely.

Jean Kirkpatrick from Women for Sobriety was right when she said happiness is created, not waited for. Someone once told me that if I had the key to happiness, I would be happy while doing the dishes.

Yeah, right! The truth is that life is often filled with many small, repetitive tasks. Happiness comes during those moments when I know that I am doing the right task. That only occurs when I know what my bigger picture is.

My bigger and more difficult goals include keeping my Women for Sobriety group going, and doing art and dance. When I know that I am working steadily towards those goals, I can enjoy happiness while doing the dishes! Life provides many opportunities for happiness if I look and see them.

A beautiful blue bird flying in front of my window while I type this, my daughter singing in the other room, me writing this on New Year’s Day because I had a desire to. I wish for you the strength to look inward and find your own road to happiness.

Accepting that she had a problem with alcohol, Jeannie Long now enjoys 7 years of continuous sobriety. She leads a weekly support group for women using the Women for Sobriety program.

Jeannie helps women achieve better physical and mental health through her health related web sites and newsletter. Note: Learn about a device that will tell you the antioxidant levels in your body just by scanning your hand. www.splinfo.com

 

 

FAQ 

What is the best definition of sobriety?

For people who are in recovery from substance or alcohol use, the definition of sobriety is similar to the definition of abstinence. It means living a life free of drug or alcohol use. This is especially true when your life has become centered around alcohol or drug use.

What is an example of sobriety?

Sobriety is a serious state of mind, or when you are not affected by drugs, alcohol or other substances. An example of sobriety is your state of mind at a funeral. An example of sobriety is when you do not take drugs or consume alcohol. Soundness of judgement.

What is emotional sobriety?

ONE of the cornerstones of alcoholism recovery is a concept called emotional sobriety. The idea is that alcoholics and other addicts hoping to stay sober over the long haul must learn to regulate the negative feelings that can lead to discomfort, craving and—ultimately—relapse.

What is the sentence of sobriety?

Sobriety sentence example. He was well adapted to his time by his good sense and sobriety of judgment. The buildings of the latest French style keep a certain purity and sobriety in Normandy which they do not keep elsewhere.

What does my sobriety mean to me?

Sobriety is empowering

You are choosing to live a certain way—that you are more important than your addiction. As you build up years of sobriety, you are affirming your self-worth and you are crafting a life not ruled by drugs or alcohol. You are striving to be healthier and happier.

Why sobriety is a lifelong commitment?

You develop good habits, discover how to cope with stress, and learn what is important to you in life. Sometimes seeking counseling or therapy can help you form these healthy coping practices. Developing healthy coping skills may take a long time. This is one of the reasons obtaining sobriety is a lifelong process.

What is physical sobriety?

Physical sobriety is the actual “not drinking” (or not using) that you practice every day. It is mandatory, but not sufficient for full emotional addiction recovery. There is no discounting how momentous an achievement physical sobriety can be. It can take strength you never knew you had.

How do you do a field sobriety test?

For the walk-and-turn test, the officer asks the driver to take nine steps, heel-to-toe, along a straight line, turn on one foot and return nine steps in the opposite direction. During the test, the officer looks for seven indicators of impairment.

How do you practice emotional sobriety?

Instead of being completely overwhelmed with emotion, emotional sobriety includes being able to step back, realize emotions, and accept them as they come. Get Community Support: Going to peer group meetings like AA and NA can help to stimulate feelings of fellowship and establish support.

What does the big book say about emotional sobriety?

By looking at yourself instead of others, you are well on your way to living the 3 words that they big book describes as the key to emotional sobriety – sober, considerate, and helpful, no matter what anyone else says or does.